Nameless Grief

june 30

Why is it hard to accept,
the death of a child?

Is it because…

When you lose your husband,
you’re a widow;

When you lose you wife,
you’re a widower;

When you lose you parents,
you’re an orphan;

But when you lose a child,
what will you become?

04.01.2016
©2016 Rosemawrites@A Reading Writer. All Rights Reserved.

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DISCLAIMER: My dear friend Vijaya of StrangeLander 2015  shared to my two beautiful pieces with almost the same words as this poem:

“A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. There is no word for a parent who loses a child. That’s how awful the loss is.”

― Jay Neugeboren, An Orphan’s Tale

and

“Brenda: You know what I find interesting? If you lose a spouse, you’re called a widow, or a widower. If you’re a child and you lose your parents, then you’re an orphan. But what’s the word to describe a parent who loses a child? I guess that’s just too fucking awful to even have a name.”

As a writer, I always try to honour intellectual properties mostly words from someone’s mind. I personally haven’t read these two lovely pieces but we somehow shared the same theme, a parent’s loss, hence we share almost the same words.

For my part, this poem is written and inspired by the story by the death of Courageous Caitie. She is a 3-year old Filipina who has been diagnosed with a very rare type of blood cancer. Her family flew from the Philippines to Singapore to have a concrete diagnosis, as no local doctors were able to identify her illness.

I actually posted about her death here. So there. No plagiarism, no bad intention was intended when I wrote and posted this piece.

God bless everyone.

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47 thoughts on “Nameless Grief

  1. That’s a very true poem and question, one that I think many have pondered and the general consensus thus far is that we have no word for such a tragedy because it is unnatural for a parent to have to bury their child 😦 It truly is one of the Life’s most heartbreaking events.

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  2. Um …

    “A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. There is no word for a parent who loses a child. That’s how awful the loss is.”

    ― Jay Neugeboren, An Orphan’s Tale

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    1. Hi Vijaya! Thank you for sharing this. I personally haven’t read this book or this quote and thank you for informing me.
      I wrote this poem when a three-year old child with a rare leukemia died. I have been praying for her and her family and been following their battle on facebook. I even posted about her death here: https://areadingwritr.wordpress.com/2016/03/31/hearts-voice/.
      So she and her parents are my inspiration for this one. Not the piece that you shared because I haven’t read it ever. Nonetheless, thank you for sharing and I may take down this post to avoid unnecessary conflicts. Thank you.

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      1. So sorry to hear about that. Alas, that quote is not just in the book (which I haven’t read. It’s everywhere, in the air, which is why I think it was not intentional on your part. I’ve seen it in many places.
        Thanks for understanding. I didn’t want you to have any trouble about that.

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      2. I knew you would understand, because I know you honor people’s copyright. I see you doing that all the time – acknowledging people’s work. That’s why I thought it important to mention this.
        You rule, girl! Love to you!
        Vijaya

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      1. It is somehow personal when i wrote this. 🙂 It is inspired by a young angel. 🙂

        Yes, sister. And I am thanking God that this hell week is over. ❤

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