
I may be flabby.
And you may laugh at me.
I may be meaty.
And surely, you can bully me.
I may be fat.
But I still have a heart.
I may be stout.
But please don’t give me doubts.
Yes, I am chubby.
But you have no right to tell me “I’m not worthy.”
Yes, I am not sexy.
But I can confidently say, “I’m happy.”
Now, let me ask you.
“Are you as happy as me?”
In response to Blogging University’s WRITING 101 Day 17 Assignment:
Day 17: Mine your own material
Imagine a shopper searching for vintage items at a flea market, or an artist using recycled materials to build a sculpture. Can you dig through your online treasures and build upon old stories and existing writing? Here are more ideas:
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Scroll through your Facebook wall and see if any posts catch your eye. Do you feel the same as when you first posted something? Can you comment on how you’ve evolved?
This poem is inspired by my Facebook post last April. I reposted a TIME’s article, Kelly Clarkson Talks Weight Criticism With Ellen DeGeneres, because her words have somehow empowered me.
Clarkson, an American singer and the first ever American Idol winner said,
“It’s like, you’re just who you are. We are who we are. Whatever size, and it doesn’t meant that we’re gonna be that forever.”
Can you relate to her?
Do you agree?
Please let me know.
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Girlfriend, chubby is as sexy as can be as long as the person is healthy. I think it’s the carriage that is important and skinny is not synonymous with healthy.
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Yay! I agree!!! Thanks, Jacq!
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Beautifully put, Jacqueline!
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I agree!!! 😀
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Thank you for saying that 🙂
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You’re welcome! 🙂
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couldn’t agree more! skinny also is not synonymous with HAPPY 🙂
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Definitely, I agree Kristin! 😀
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Yup 🙂
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All through high school and college, I was overweight, Then I lost the weight and for years I was “just right.” In my 40s I was too thin. Not anorexic, but too thin. Now I’m struggling to maintain the right level, but here’s the thing: I can’t say I’m any happier when I’m thinner than when I’m heavier, or vice versa. And never give into what someone else says your weight should be (except maybe your doctor 🙂 ).
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Oh thank you for sharing this Belinda! 🙂 Yes, I should be healthy too! Thanks a lot! 😀
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You have a healthy attitude, and that’s incredibly important!
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Yay! Thank you! I do agree. 😀
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HI Rose! I can relate on both sides of the spectrum: skinny and chubby. Either way, if I am unhappy, I will be unhappy and feel UNsexy. I have battled the weight for years and I finally gave in this past year. A few of my most cherished girlfriends are very voluptuous and very beautiful- I have watched them grow in their soul beauty as they’ve learned to love themselves the way they are. I am barely catching on;) Like Jacqueline said: skinny isn’t necessarily healthy.
Great Post! You’ve inspired me to write the assignment for our class:) Thank you!!!
Greta
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Hi Greta. I am not sure why I only read this now. 😦 Too late, too late. BUT! Let me thank you for your insightful comment. 🙂 Thank you soooo much!
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DAMN! This was FIERCE! I loved it & it was 100% true!
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Hahaha! Your comment made me laugh! Like really! 😀 I never thought that I sounded fierce but I am glad that I did! 😀
Thank you! 😀
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Great piece, well written! Have you heard this song? I cried the first time I heard it. So beautiful.
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Oh, thank you for reading and for your kind and lovely words! 😀
Yes, I am a bit of Colbie Callait fan and this song do voices out my thoughts as a ‘not-the-normal-sexy’ girl. 🙂
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Ah well, what’s normal anyway, right? I think you’re a lovely person and I’m glad you like yourself the way you are
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Thank you! Sometimes I am confident. Sometimes not. 😀
Thank you again! 😀
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LOVE this song. What a lovely gift.
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That’s so true! 🙂
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Chubby is the new sexy! Haha. I adore Kelly. I’m amazed by her fierceness and confidence.
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Oh that’s so true!!! She is sexy when she’s literally sexy and she’s even sexier when she’s not. 😀
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So right! Being point out on weight is just too much. Mind your own business people!! I have been a target and I hate it when someone else get the heat too. So not fiar
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Oh yes! I think they are just insecure, too. 😀 We are sexy as we are. 😀
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Always be happy and healthy, nothing else matters 🙂
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Yay! I agree! Thank you for the visit! 😀
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I think your poem is heartfelt and true! Love your cheerfulness! And we’re only as sexy as we feel or think. Size has nothing to do with it, as we all know (but have to keep reminding ourselves, when our scale shows a weight we’d rather not see). Bessie Smith, the Empress of the Blues, was a big mama, but she was a man-magnet, because of her absolute beauty and self-confidence. It’s the carriage that’s important, as Jacqueline above states.
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Oh thank you, Vijaya! You have presented to good points. We are all sexy but we still have to check if we are healthy! It’s always nice to read your words! 😀
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And yours!
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I definitely agree to this post. Be yourself and be happy. ❤
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Yay! Thank you, my dear! 😀
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“It’s like, you’re just who you are. We are who we are. Whatever size, and it doesn’t meant that we’re gonna be that forever.”
May chance pa tayo. Pati pala sa size, walang forever!!! 😀
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Hahaha! Truths! Manalig tayo Shiela! Haha!
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My fiance is chubby but I love him. Just because someone is chubby or too thin, they aren’t worthy at all..it’s a big NO.
You are amazing just that way you are~ as Bruno Mars said. 😉
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Yay, I agree Sheryl! Thank you for the visit! 😀
I loved that song, too!
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My pleasure! 🙂
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Happiness is always sexy.
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Indeed! 😀
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Love your optimistic view 🙂
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Thank you, Annie! 😀 I am not always optimistic, though! 😀
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I understand. Sometimes it’s hard. You have a positive attitude though, which is important 🙂
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I would have to agree to that! 🙂
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Confidence is sexy 🙂 Rub on me some.
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Haha! I am not always confident, though. 😀
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You got in you. Keep/guard it.
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Yay. Thank you. I’ll try! 😀
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A great poem. I like because i can see you are confident and happy which makes you a sexy person.
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Yay. Thank you for that. I am not confident everytime. I have my low days, too. 😀
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I loved this poem Rose and can really relate to it. Who decides what is sexy? My husband likes me just the way I am (even if I don’t)!!!
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Haha! I can relate to that! 😀 My boyfriend always say I am sexy, but I don’t believe him actually! HAHA
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As others have said above, happy is the new sexy.
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Yay! I agree, Jeanne! Thank you for reading! 😀
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As Katherine Hepburn used to say, “Please yourself, at least you know someone will be pleased.” Or words to that effect. Words I try to live by.
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Oh thank you for sharing this! I will remember this from now on! 🙂
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You are welcome. It works for me. 🙂
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Great poem, full of confidence and positiveness ❤
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Yay! Thank you, Nadine! 😀
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“Brainy is the new sexy.” I have learned that from Sherlock. Anyway, anyone who’s comfortable in his own skin is truly sexy.. and you sure are! 🙂
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Yay! I agree.
Thank you! I tried to visit your blog but it is not working.. 😦
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try riddlesandpens.wordpress.com 🙂 Thank you for wanting to read it 🙂
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https://riddlesandpens.wordpress.com/
Is this your blog? 🙂
I think you have to change your profile settings. You are losing web traffic/readers because the website linked to your profile/gravatar is maynotbesoanonymous.wordpress.com. You should change it dear. 🙂
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Thank you for the advice. I will see to it now. Yes, that’s the blog. 🙂
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You’re welcome. Someone also noticed that the website linked in my profile is wrong. 🙂 It helped me a lot so now I am trying to help you, too. 🙂
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I have changed it already. Thank you, really! 🙂
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Oh I see. Now you have the right link. 🙂
You’er welcome! 😀
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So, I know you have read at least some of my blog so likely know that I struggle with weight too. But here is what we BOTH need to know: sexy is between our ears, not the size of our hips and thighs. One of my closest friends is overweight and she is usually the sexiest woman in the room because she is SO confident (her husband thinks she is sexy too). She does not disparage herself. So let’s make a pact to remember that our weight has nothing to do with being beautiful women. It is the soul radiating out that truly determines beauty and if you THINK you’re sexy, you will act that way. Along with the Colbie Callait song above, I love this empowering video : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZV8N0u4Z1IM. I posted this meme on my Facebook page some time back: “You are not fat. You have fat. You also have fingernails. You are not fingernail.” You are beautiful. If you need reminding, let me know.
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Oh wow… Your words and the video made me cry!!!
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Thank you so much! 🙂 You don’t know how much your words mean to me. 🙂
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Age, size, weight, height are just numbers. I have struggled with body weight too, although on the wrong side and I used to hate looking at myself in the mirror when my weight was falling rapidly. I think now I am more stable and happily know that there will be ups and downs but as long as I don’t constantly focus on my weight, I will be okay. Acceptance makes a person so much confident and beautiful because they are completely at peace with themselves! Look at Rebel Wilson, Melissa McCarthy, they’re gorgeous women and completely secure and happy with their body image! 😀
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Oh you have shared a lot of inspiring insights here! Thank you so much! I love this: “Acceptance makes a person so much confident and beautiful because they are completely at peace with themselves!” Yay!
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You’re very kind ! Thank you for sharing this post which serves as a huge reminder to all of us that Sexy is what’s inside! 😀
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Yay! Thank you so much to you, too! 😀
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Great thoughts on how the body should be celebrated.
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Oh thank you so much, Jarrod! Thank you, really really really! :’)
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Wonderful poem. Stay happy! Other’s opinions? They are theirs; let them take care of it.
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That’s so true! some days aren’t as great as others but I always try to be as happy as me.
Thank you! 😀
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I’m all hips, curves and boobs and I love it. Men say I’m sexy because I wear my curves with confidence. I don’t buy into skinny girl dogma. Rock your curves – oh and a pair of Stilettos can make anyone feel sexy😉
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Oh I am all hips and butt and tummy but I don’t have boobs, yep, it’s a shame! 😀
I also don’t stilettos because my feet cannot carry my weight! Haha!
Thank you for visiting!
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