WRITING 101: Not sexy, but definitely happy

From: fbcoverstreet.com

I may be flabby.

And you may laugh at me.

I may be meaty.

And surely, you can bully me.

I may be fat.

But I still have a heart.

I may be stout.

But please don’t give me doubts.

Yes, I am chubby.

But you have no right to tell me “I’m not worthy.”

Yes, I am not sexy.

But I can confidently say, “I’m happy.”

Now, let me ask you.

“Are you as happy as me?”

In response to Blogging University’s WRITING 101 Day 17 Assignment:

Day 17: Mine your own material

Imagine a shopper searching for vintage items at a flea market, or an artist using recycled materials to build a sculpture. Can you dig through your online treasures and build upon old stories and existing writing? Here are more ideas:

  • Scroll through your Facebook wall and see if any posts catch your eye. Do you feel the same as when you first posted something? Can you comment on how you’ve evolved?

This poem is inspired by my Facebook post last April. I reposted a TIME’s article, Kelly Clarkson Talks Weight Criticism With Ellen DeGeneres, because her words have somehow empowered me. 

Clarkson, an American singer and the first ever American Idol winner said,

“It’s like, you’re just who you are. We are who we are. Whatever size, and it doesn’t meant that we’re gonna be that forever.”


Can you relate to her?

Do you agree?

Please let me know.


91 thoughts on “WRITING 101: Not sexy, but definitely happy”

  1. All through high school and college, I was overweight, Then I lost the weight and for years I was “just right.” In my 40s I was too thin. Not anorexic, but too thin. Now I’m struggling to maintain the right level, but here’s the thing: I can’t say I’m any happier when I’m thinner than when I’m heavier, or vice versa. And never give into what someone else says your weight should be (except maybe your doctor 🙂 ).

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  2. HI Rose! I can relate on both sides of the spectrum: skinny and chubby. Either way, if I am unhappy, I will be unhappy and feel UNsexy. I have battled the weight for years and I finally gave in this past year. A few of my most cherished girlfriends are very voluptuous and very beautiful- I have watched them grow in their soul beauty as they’ve learned to love themselves the way they are. I am barely catching on;) Like Jacqueline said: skinny isn’t necessarily healthy.
    Great Post! You’ve inspired me to write the assignment for our class:) Thank you!!!

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    1. Oh, thank you for reading and for your kind and lovely words! 😀

      Yes, I am a bit of Colbie Callait fan and this song do voices out my thoughts as a ‘not-the-normal-sexy’ girl. 🙂


  3. I think your poem is heartfelt and true! Love your cheerfulness! And we’re only as sexy as we feel or think. Size has nothing to do with it, as we all know (but have to keep reminding ourselves, when our scale shows a weight we’d rather not see). Bessie Smith, the Empress of the Blues, was a big mama, but she was a man-magnet, because of her absolute beauty and self-confidence. It’s the carriage that’s important, as Jacqueline above states.

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  4. My fiance is chubby but I love him. Just because someone is chubby or too thin, they aren’t worthy at all..it’s a big NO.
    You are amazing just that way you are~ as Bruno Mars said. 😉

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  5. “Brainy is the new sexy.” I have learned that from Sherlock. Anyway, anyone who’s comfortable in his own skin is truly sexy.. and you sure are! 🙂

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  6. So, I know you have read at least some of my blog so likely know that I struggle with weight too. But here is what we BOTH need to know: sexy is between our ears, not the size of our hips and thighs. One of my closest friends is overweight and she is usually the sexiest woman in the room because she is SO confident (her husband thinks she is sexy too). She does not disparage herself. So let’s make a pact to remember that our weight has nothing to do with being beautiful women. It is the soul radiating out that truly determines beauty and if you THINK you’re sexy, you will act that way. Along with the Colbie Callait song above, I love this empowering video : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZV8N0u4Z1IM. I posted this meme on my Facebook page some time back: “You are not fat. You have fat. You also have fingernails. You are not fingernail.” You are beautiful. If you need reminding, let me know.

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  7. Age, size, weight, height are just numbers. I have struggled with body weight too, although on the wrong side and I used to hate looking at myself in the mirror when my weight was falling rapidly. I think now I am more stable and happily know that there will be ups and downs but as long as I don’t constantly focus on my weight, I will be okay. Acceptance makes a person so much confident and beautiful because they are completely at peace with themselves! Look at Rebel Wilson, Melissa McCarthy, they’re gorgeous women and completely secure and happy with their body image! 😀

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    1. Oh you have shared a lot of inspiring insights here! Thank you so much! I love this: “Acceptance makes a person so much confident and beautiful because they are completely at peace with themselves!” Yay!

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